BDSM COUNSELING COPENHAGEN
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BDSM TEACHING
Hands-on Approach to BDSM
In our clinic in Copenhagen, couples and singles can receive professional, hands-on training in exploring the balance of power in sexuality. We teach both beginners and experienced practitioners, helping them to become more clear about their roles, profiles and desires as both dominant and submissive.
Carsten has over 25 years of experience as a dominant and for him dominance is about creating a strong sexual and emotional dynamic that keeps a relationship alive, passionate and strong. Read about Maria and Carsten's dominance relationship here.
You can also get answers to clients' most common questions here .
HOW A MEETING IS CONDUCTED
We begin a meeting with an informal conversation to clarify your wishes, boundaries, and needs. If you wish, we can then move on to the practical part. In this part, it is the client who sets the pace and defines the limits.
When we teach, we have no sexual interaction with the clients, but provide practical demonstrations that offer a sensual experience of what it feels like to dominate or be dominated. Carsten can, among other things, demonstrate techniques on Maria, and our clients can practice on Maria and get feedback. The teaching can be about gentle spanking, fixation, blindfold, commands, service tasks, protocols, or anything else related to BDSM. The goal is to give our clients new skills, help them understand their desires, or let go of shame or other barriers. When we teach, we create an informal space, and all types of questions are, of course, welcome.
OUR FOCUS AREAS
🔹 Personal mapping
Identify desires and longings as dominant or submissive – and understand what that means in practice.
🔹 Relationship types and dynamics
Learn about different types of relationships and find out what suits you.
🔹 Communication and boundaries
Learn about protocols, boundary setting, and contracts that create security and strengthened dynamics.
🔹 Safety and care
Learn about responsibility, care, aftercare and understand key states such as top and subspace.
🔹 Daily rituals and routines
Get ideas for sexual and social routines that strengthen daily connection and role division.
⭐ Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) – Teaching Dominance and Submission
How much does a session cost and how long does it take?
A session typically lasts 1 to 2 hours, depending on your wishes and needs. You can find our hourly rates for bodily sexology here.
Can I try being both dominant and submissive in the same session?
Yes, many people use a session to explore several different roles to understand what suits them best.
Can I come alone as a single person?
Both couples and singles are welcome! In that case, we act as your practice partners, so you have an experienced person you can feel comfortable working with.
Can we talk on the phone first?
Yes. It's entirely up to you. We often have a no-obligation phone call or short meeting where we talk about a client's thoughts, boundaries and expectations. It's free and helps create the necessary reassurance and an opportunity to assess whether you feel our approach can work for you.
Can I keep my clothes on for a session?
Yes. It's up to you. Many people choose to keep their clothes on all the time, but you can also choose to be partially undressed, naked, or wearing an outfit of your choice. It's entirely up to you.
Can I choose my own practice partner?
Yes. Couples usually act as each other's practice partners. For dominant women and men, Maria can be a submissive practice partner, and we can both be dominant practice partners for male and female submissives. If you have special requests for a practice partner with a specific profile, please write to us. In our network we may be able to find someone who fits your wishes.
How does a session proceed step by step?
When you arrive we sit in a small and completely ordinary living room where we have a relaxed conversation over a cup of tea or coffee. We talk about your desires, limits and what you would like to learn. After that we move on to talk about what is to happen and when you are ready we can do some practical exercises. You decide the pace.
Can I stop or change my mind along the way?
Of course – and this is one of the most important things for us. You can stop or change limits at any time without explanation.
Can I have sex with my practice partner?
No, not in the traditional sense. We do not kiss, have penetration, or receive stimulation of erogenous zones. The purpose is practical learning and experience of dominance and submission – not sexual gratification.
What does the classroom look like?
We teach in a cozy, small living room and in a massage room with a table that also has the basic remedies (including gentle spanking, bondage and fixation) that we use when we teach. For us personally, we enjoy that dominance and submission is something we do in domestic settings. So we don't have a dungeon with chains, locks and lots of technical equipment.
How do I prepare and do I need to bring anything?
You just have to show up with an open mind and it's entirely up to you whether there's anything you'd like to bring.
Is the session confidential and discreet?
Yes, absolutely. Everything you share stays between us. We don't take any notes that can identify you. There are no signs at the entrance stating what we do. So you can come and go in complete discretion.
I'm interested, but nervous – is that normal?
Yes, it's completely normal – almost everyone is nervous the first time. You are welcome to call or write first, so we can talk a little and then you can better feel if it feels right for you.
THE ROLE AS DOMINANT
Many people think that a dominant is characterized by being tough and demanding, but a good dominant must also be a good leader and have empathy, be strict, decisive, caring and imaginative. As a dominant, you must be good at planning, good at sensing the submissive's limits and good at controlling and leading the submissive. It's about creating a healthy symbiotic state where both live out their desires and create the security and trust that makes it possible to develop to the maximum.
THE ROLE AS SUBMISSIVE
It is a common perception that a submissive is weak and easy to manipulate, but in reality it is the opposite. A good submissive is a strong and confident person who enjoys the uncertainty that comes with letting go of a dominant they respect and trust. Surrendering sexually or socially can be both developmental, therapeutic and meditative.
