Counseling and a Bodily Approach to Open Relationships in Copenhagen

I have great respect for couples who choose to live monogamously, but monogamy has never felt right for me personally. Just because two people form a relationship doesn't mean they can explore all their desires together.

When I met Maria, she had never experienced being single or having casual sex with men she did not know. Giving her the freedom to explore this aspect of her sexuality has brought her greater peace and brought us closer together.

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To me, this is the essence of an open relationship: giving your partner the freedom to explore connections with other people and, through those experiences, gain a deeper understanding of themselves.

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CONVERSATION & GUIDANCE

There are as many ways to live in an open relationship as there are couples. My guidance therefore always begins with your particular relationship, desires, and boundaries.

I help you put what matters into words and speak openly about what you find difficult. This may include jealousy, safety, sex, emotions, communication, and boundaries.

Speaking with a professional who is not personally involved in the relationship can make it easier to understand each other and create clear agreements that both of you genuinely support and feel comfortable with.

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A BODY-BASED APPROACH

Many couples choose to use our couples massage as a safe and clearly defined way of exploring openness. It allows you to notice what happens within your bodies and between you when you share an intimate space with other people.

We can give you a massage or teach you how to give each other erotic massage and stimulation. During the session, you have the opportunity to notice and talk about desire, curiosity, boundaries, and any uncertainty that may arise.

We participate as professional facilitators without personal expectations about what should happen. You decide the pace, the boundaries, and how far you wish to go. This makes it easier to explore and pay attention to your responses while preserving the safety and connection between you.

Read more about our approach to couples massage here.

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CRISES AND RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS

Our clients consider opening their relationships for many different reasons, but not all of those reasons are constructive. Some couples are already in crisis but are afraid of letting go of each other. They may see an open relationship as a way of gradually escaping the relationship.

We also meet couples in which one partner has a fetish involving the other partner having sex with other people.

Opening a relationship in an attempt to solve existing relationship problems is rarely a good idea. In such situations, it is often better to begin by addressing the underlying problem directly.

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WHAT OUR CLIENTS ARE LOOKING FOR

When our clients seek guidance about open relationships, they are usually looking for:

• Greater sexual freedom and mutual honesty

• Guidance while already living in an open relationship

• The ability to communicate more openly with each other

• A way forward after one partner has been unfaithful

• New possibilities when they still love each other but no longer have sex

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BENEFITS AND CHALLENGES

When a couple opens their relationship, their psychological and emotional patterns often become much more visible. Old emotional wounds may resurface, and one or both partners may experience isolation, insecurity, or fear of loss.

This can be painful, but it can also lead to growth. Learning to feel secure within yourself may ultimately create a deeper connection—both with your partner and with yourself.

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OUR INFORMATION PAGE

You can also read more about open relationships and the questions our clients frequently ask on our information page.