FEEL FREE TO FEEL PLEASURE
INFIDELITY DOES NOT NEED TO BE SHAMEFULL
Infidelity is not always unethical
Developing feelings or desires outside of your relationship can create stress or lead to an identity crisis. Being exposed can result in major conflicts and traumatizing jealousy. As therapists, however, we do not believe that infidelity can be reduced to something uniquely unethical and harmful. Most people have desires that are not monogamous, and many couples have unsatisfactory sex lives. A large proportion of these people choose infidelity as a way to regain freedom, dignity, and desire.
ADVICE ON INfidelity
If you are unfaithful, you rarely have anyone you can talk openly with about your longings and worries. Many of our unfaithful clients first and foremost need a space where they can think and speak freely, but also receive help to solve the problems that often arise when living a double life with multiple partners. Some need to learn to deal with guilt, become better at standing up for their needs, or talk about the consequences if the truth comes out. With us, you can have a confidential conversation in private, and you are, of course, welcome to be anonymous.
MAIL FROM AN UNFAITHFUL CLIENT
“For many years I have been ashamed of being unfaithful to my husband. When I sought help from professionals, I could always feel that they were judging me – even if they pretended not to. I love my husband, but he and I have not felt like having sex with each other for many years. Despite that, he does not want an open relationship. With Carsten, I was treated with great respect. His understanding and acceptance have not only helped me to have a deeper relationship with my husband, but also with myself and with my secret lover.”