HOW TO GIVE AN ORGASMIC HUG

My first orgasmic hug, and how I learned to give an orgasm from a verbal command.

I’ve often had partners who struggled to reach orgasm. Consequently, I tried to improve my ability to stimulate them physically, but it rarely made much difference. When meeting Rita on a first date at a busy café in town, I was about to learn that an orgasm does not need to be the result of physical stimulation. During our date, Rita and I spent a couple of hours having a great conversation, and when we said goodbye, I did not doubt that we were a perfect match. Energized by our meeting, I got up and gave her a genuine, heartfelt hug.

“Mmmmm…” she murmured while putting her arms around me. “I have been single for more than a year,” she whispered. “It’s great to feel connected to a man again.”

Rita and I not only had a great intellectual connection, but when hugging, I felt a strong and overpowering energy from her. Enjoying the sensation, I placed one hand behind her head, hugging her even tighter.

“Ahhh… Uhhhhmmmm…,” she uttered while rubbing her body eagerly against mine. As our hug intensified, her movements grew increasingly vigorous. Not wanting to intimidate the other guests in the cafe, I tried to withdraw a little, but this strategy only seemed to fuel Rita even more.

“Ahh… Uhm… Uh…. Hell! … Y-YES!” She moaned, making the other guests in the café turn their heads. Smiling at a family with kids just behind Rita, I tried to pretend that I had the situation under control, but Rita was not cooperative. Clinging to me, her body started shivering while she went through intense spasms.

”AAAAAHHHHHHH!!! YES!!! I’M CUUMMMIIING!!!!” she suddenly shouted, having what felt like a full-body orgasm before collapsing in my arms. While supporting her out of the cafe, I tried to ignore the staring guests until a security guard stepped in front of us.

“Is she okay?” he asked, looking worried.

“Sorry,” I said, trying to keep a straight face. “My friend just had an epileptic seizure, but she will be fine in a minute.”

RELATIONSHIP ENERGY

During the following weeks, Rita and I started dating. Initially, the attraction between us was intense, but as we got to know each other, it gradually faded. Not only did we have different relationship values, but we also had mismatched sexual profiles. We didn’t have conflicts, but each time we met, part of the excitement wore off. After a few weeks, I found myself having a hard time staying focused when she and I had sex. After a couple of months, the attraction was basically gone, and consequently, we drifted apart.

In the years that followed, my experience with Rita stayed with me, prompting many questions. What creates attraction and connection between two people — and why does it happen with some but not others? Where does the energy go when it disappears, and can it be rekindled? How could Rita reach such an intense level of pleasure the first time we hugged, and what changed afterward to make it vanish?

Questions like these don’t have definite answers, but it was clear to me that attraction is closely connected to hopes, longings, and illusions. When Rita and I met, she had been longing to find a partner. During our first hug, she had not been hugging me but hugging the man she hoped I would be. Her hopes gave rise to illusions — and when the illusions broke, so did our relationship.

My process with Rita mirrors what many couples experience when their initial passion fades. What made my relationship with Rita out of the ordinary was the speed with which we went from illusion to reality.

ORGASM FROM A VERBAL COMMAND

Around five years ago, I started dating Maria, and our relationship played out in almost exactly the opposite way as with Rita. From the beginning, none of us felt overwhelmed by attraction, but as we got to know each other better, the attraction started growing. After a couple of months, we were head over heels in love and had amazing, devotional sex. Maria turned out to be a sexual submissive, making it natural for me to take a dominant role. This gave me freedom to define how and when we interacted sexually. While exploring our dynamics, I introduced different kinds of roleplay, and one of them is called orgasm denial. Simply put, orgasm denial involves deliberately postponing or denying a submissive partner the opportunity to reach climax. During sex, I told Maria that she was not allowed to have an orgasm unless she had my permission. If she orgasmed without permission, she would receive a punishment. Sometimes I would bring her very close to orgasm for hours, making her beg to be allowed to cum. This often made her so ecstatic that she would not need any kind of physical stimulation to reach orgasm when getting permission to cum. One day, we had dinner at a restaurant, and I decided to explore the limits of my control.

“In a moment, you are going to have an orgasm,” I said while she was studying the menu card.

“What?!” she said, looking both shocked and shy at the same time.

“I’m going to count down from 10 to 1, and when I reach 1, you will have an orgasm,” I explained.

Staring at me with an open mouth, Maria said nothing, but when I started counting, her eyes immediately became faint. When reaching 7, she closed her eyes before her body started shivering. This was a routine we had followed several hundred times during sex, but never in a purely social context. As she sank deeper into her trance, she had no other option than to follow my lead. When reaching 4, she opened her eyes, looking at me while holding on to the table.

“3,” I said. “You are my property and you have no other wishes than to follow my lead.”

“2,” I continued. “You are almost there, and, in a moment, you will fall over the edge.”

“1,” I said in a calm voice. “Let go and cum for me now!”

As I spoke, her eyes were rolling back in her head, and while moaning silently, her body started shaking in intense orgasm.

Since that night, I sometimes command Maria to cum when we are standing in line in a supermarket or while sitting in a cinema or on a bench in a park. My ability to make Maria cum like this is great, but far from the most important part of our relationship. The most important part is the mutual trust, love, and respect that makes my control possible. Because of this, we have managed to move beyond common relationship issues like doubt, conflicts, and jealousy. Not having to deal with matters like these is what we both appreciate the most. Seen from that perspective, Maria’s ability to orgasm from a verbal command is just an added bonus.